How I Became An Elite London Escort, Part 2
The Term “Elite London Escort”
If you haven’t already, read the first part of this blog, “How I Became An Elite London Escort, Part 1,” for some well needed context before reading this second part. When I was completing my research at the beginning of my journey, I saw many courtesans describing themselves as “elite” and figured it meant they were charging a high rate and were somehow “better” than others. There will always be debates and disagreements about what the word “elite” really means. Personally, I believe it's different for everyone!
After this past year, I admit, my views on the term elite has changed. I now believe that elite doesn’t necessarily mean you charge 4 figures for a 90 minute booking or are always dripping in designer wear. It doesn’t have to mean that you are being flown around the world and dining every night at Michelin star restaurants.
I believe being an elite escort is more about intimate connection and relationships I cultivate with my clients. It is also about respect: valuing someone’s time and honoring what that brings to life. The concept of elite for me now is more about a dedication to authenticity, taking care of yourself physically and mentally, acknowledging flaws and striving for improvement. Social media makes it tempting to compare myself to other ebony companions and measure my own success against that definition of elite. We are bombarded with pictures of luxury gifts, donations and FMTY dates, I’ve discovered that judging myself against the perception of the elite is neither healthy nor productive . As soon as I stopped comparing my insides to others outsides, I was able to embrace what makes me appealing to clients. I am able to embrace and highlight my true personality and now dare to be different and I watch as the world opens up.
Being an elite London escort is about respecting the business you have created , its about nurturing, loving and respecting what you have created and who you have created. I respected this business enough to engage an accountant to manage my finances and a SEO consultant to assist with my website performance. Listening to podcasts such as The Sexy Escort Guide and Sex Workshop allows me to learn from seasoned companions and apply relevant advice.
Can A Black Woman Be An Elite Model?
Being black and petite, I do not fit the paradigm society dictates is “elite”. I knew I’d already halved the market I could advertise to because of this and needed to work even harder to attract the clientele who would consider me. There are many issues I contend with as a black London elite escort before meeting a client. You have potential clients who fetishise the idea of being with a black women – barely seeing us as human beings, almost a caricature of their imagination or those who are disrespected by your rate because why would I charge so much considering I’m black? At least once a week you’ll receive a dissertation discussing a potential clients love for black women and their desire for interracial children and how much they detest being white and crude messages relating to race play or plain simple racist inflammatory language as an introduction. As I explained in Part 1, the clients I’ve met have been thoughtful and generous but getting through the admin process can become arduous. This is all on top of the regular timewasting enquiries many companions receive.
I’ve always understood my position and how I’m perceived in society, especially since I live in a predominantly white country. I have always fought to be seen and heard and no exceptions will be made as a companion. I am not a caricature, a fetishisation of your imagination or a sex doll, I am a proud black woman and will be treated with the respect that I know I deserve. I feel its important that black providers discuss their experiences of racism as well as sexism in this industry because its easy to get tunnel vision and forget issues providers face are intersectional and layered which can cause further obstacles.
Through this, my journey has allowed me to strengthen my boundaries but also opened my eyes and imagination to new experiences I never thought I’d try. You couldn’t have told me that I’d begin experimenting with light BDSM and sensual domination and other niches tucked away from the civvie world a year ago. Gaining confidence and belief in myself as an elite London escort has allowed me to build connections with clients that allows the safe space and pleasure of exploring different kinks. I’ve also always been interested in politics and don’t shy away from such topics and have engaged in one or two conversations with clients. Being a companion has reimagined my love for politics and has informed me of the different legislation not only in the UK but around the world that affects the industry.
When I made the decision to become an elite London escort, I didn’t put a time stamp on the length but a year in, I can see myself fairing all the seasons year in and year out. There is still the challenge and mental angst of living a double life, the many hours doing admin work, navigating sexism and racism in the world of companionship. Hiding my face means I’ve already incurred a monetary loss but the advantages of not being face out allows me to navigate as freely as I can in this society that stigmatises companions and lowers the risk and repercussions of my working and personal life colliding with the world of companionship. Nevertheless, I’m now in a comfortable routine where being an elite London escort is working alongside my 9-5 and I’m still able to make time for my friends, family and gym. If you’re considering becoming a companion, complete as much research as you can, read books, listen to podcasts, follow other companions to see if this is right for you; I spent 7-8 months researching before making my decision.
The future for me will be sparkling, bright and filled with abundance. There’ll be new obstacles that I’ll need to face as I continue in my journey as an elite London escort but that won’t take the joy away I feel from being in this industry. As long as I’m blessed to open my eyes and wake up in the morning, I’ll be here with a sweet charming smile on my face. If you want to see the charming smile in real life, book me.
Ama Daisy